Last Updated: Friday - 09/24/2010
Week of June 23, 2008
Our Marriage is Great
Marriage Encounter helped us to find joy
By ROY and EILEEN HOVEN
Our attitude toward Church changed from being a 'duty' to being a 'joy.'
We learned that the "world's plan" calls us to live individual lives, thinking of me first and seeking self-fulfillment. "God's plan" calls us to live in harmony, communicating and listening to each other and experiencing the deep joy of what God wants for us in our vocation of marriage.
We realized we did not need to be lonely and disillusioned, thinking that is all there is to our marriage.
The weekend challenged us to make a choice in the direction our marriage was going, if we truly wanted God's plan for our marriage. It was not easy changing the directions of our journey, but we were determined we wanted more for us, our family and our Church.
We had to choose the activities that drew us together and discard the ones that were drawing us apart. It really meant listening to each other, the girls, and God and letting each other know how special he or she is.
We made the decision to eat supper as a family: talking, listening and laughing. It was hard at first as the girls were not used to us listening to their school and activity stories. Sometimes after an hour or so it was time for homework and Dad and Mom ended up doing the dishes.
Our attitude toward Church changed from being a "duty" to being a "joy" as part of the family of God. We encouraged our girls to be more involved in Church, and Our Lady of Victory Camp was a place where we could be together as family.
Holidays were important to us so we did without and saved so we could holiday as a family together. What precious memories we have to share! Now, we have holidayed with our adult children and grandchildren and what a joy being together as family.
We are enjoying to the fullest our empty-nest and retirement. Witnessing our grandchildren's activities, visiting our Church family, dining in the sunroom and enjoying each other in our golden years, we continue to share our hopes and dreams in our marriage.
We feel so thankful that we have been graced with God's blessings for choosing God's plan for our marriage so many years ago.
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