MY CUP IS HALF FULL

Mark Pickup

October 3, 2011

My wife, LaRee, never knew her maternal grandmother. Her grandmother's name was Dora and she suffered from paranoid schizophrenia. Dora was institutionalized in a mental hospital in 1932 at 34 years of age.

Seventy-five years ago the shame and stigma of having a family member in a mental institution was so great that few people in the family ever mentioned Dora. She never got out of a mental hospital and eventually died there. Life went on and it was as though Dora never existed. It seemed that everyone forgot about her — but my wife did not forget.

Throughout LaRee's life her grandmother was a mystery, the lost member of the family who needed to be restored to her rightful place of respect in our family tree.

LaRee tried to find information about Dora from aunts and uncles but their recollections were sketchy and vague. Inquiries to government authorities in charge of the hospital met with refusals to release information . . . until a few weeks ago. My wife's most recent request for information fell upon the sympathetic ears of a bureaucrat who sent LaRee the closed and dusty file of Dora.

ISOLATED PRISONER

LaRee sat in our living room looking at a rare photo of Dora that she found in the file and tearfully read the sad details of a tortured life — a life crippled by devastating mental illness that isolated her grandmother from the world.

A casual observer might conclude that Dora's life was tragic and wasted. But that would not be entirely true. Granted her life was tragic and sad but it was not wasted.

Dora gave birth to LaRee's mother who gave birth to LaRee who has been the love of my life for more than 38 years. LaRee is the mother of our children who gave us five beautiful grandchildren who bring immeasurable joy to our lives.

If Dora had not been here, my world would not exist. Dora may not have known much love in her life but because of her, LaRee and I know love.

No, Dora's life was not wasted. She's part of our heritage; we owe a debt of gratitude to her. Her picture will sit in its rightful place in our home.

unfounded prejudice

I have been physically disabled for many years. In the hierarchy of disability, mental illness is near the bottom of the heap. Paranoid schizophrenia is at the very bottom.

Paranoid schizophrenics don't even fit into the world of disabilities. People with schizophrenia are often social outcasts.

That is the bad news.

The good news is that things have vastly improved in antipsychotic medications and treatments for schizophrenia in the decades since Dora died. There are many effective therapies that can help schizophrenics to live productive and useful lives if they stay on their medications and don't get caught up in the destructive vortex of addictions that often plague schizophrenics.

Our Lord showed mercy for the deranged and so should his followers. The Catholic Church has a history of caring for the mentally and physically sick. This not only involves actual care but advocacy for care of the mentally ill. I am reminded of a homily given by Cardinal Lozano Barragan on the 2006 World Day of the Sick. The cardinal stated, in part:

"The treatment for a mentally ill patient should be a treatment of loving care, tenderness and kindness, in order to help him cope with his imaginary world, perceived as an enemy, a world in which he often drowns."

The cardinal recognized the importance of devising treatments designed to draw patients from beneath the circumstances of deep psychic suffering. He reminded his audience that many people suffering the worst psychosis "often lose their sense of human relations and feel persecuted by a hostile surrounding environment." Such people need Christ's love so badly.

FOOLISH JUDGEMENT

Indifference of communities to the needs of its mentally ill people can actually threaten their security and safety. They can end up homeless, wandering the streets of inner cities across Canada. As health budgets tighten or cut back, the mentally ill can fall between the cracks of service.

Mental illness can strike any family. This is an ideal opportunity to expand Catholic outreach to the mentally ill and their families. Generously support Catholic ministries that service people with serious mental illnesses. After all, Christ works through his Church.